When I was younger, I used to think the word, “abuse”, only meant that another person had physically attacked someone else.

Not realizing emotional abuse is an actual thing..

First off. What exactly is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased.

Emotional abuse is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s very damaging to a person and can cause the following:

  • Depression and withdrawal
  • Excessive fear and anxiety
  • Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness
  • Agitation and frustration
  • Inability to make decisions
  • Loss of interest and enthusiasm
  • Low self esteem
  • Passivity and non-communicative behavior
  • Changes in behavior or personality
  • Insomnia and lack of sleep
  • Weight loss and malnutrition
  • Refusal to see or talk to others
  • Refusal to eat, drink, or take medication
  • Strange behavior such as sucking, biting, or rocking
  • Avoidance of eye contact
  • Low energy, physical activity, and responsiveness

My story of emotional abuse:

I’m not going to go into this fully for a couple of reasons, I’m working on something else where it will be explained and I’m not fully ready to share it all yet.

My story starts with constant bullying in elementary/middle school for being overweight and just not fitting in.

Along with family members trying to constantly control my life and having my life the way they want it.

Plus, the big one, a ton of emotional and even some physical abuse from past relationships. Whether it’d be from degrading me to constant screaming for asking a simple question.

I always had said, I’d rather be hit then degraded. Sad to say but it’s true.

Are you struggling with emotional abuse?

Do you know someone whose struggling with emotional abuse and want to help?

Here’s how:

  • Remembering that the abuse doesn’t happen because of some character flaw in you
    Remembering the abuser is not the authority
    Finding ways to be assertive and stand up for yourself (safely of course!)
    Avoiding the emotionally abusive encounter
    Walking away from the encounter if it kicks off
    Do not get caught up and start attacking the abuser in return
    Take time to self care
    Listen to the person venting to you
    Educate yourself on the type of abuse
    Help build the person up, don’t drag them down
    Don’t insult or ask questions like “why are you dealing with this?” Some situations are more complex than you know

National Domestic Violence Hotline (USA) 1-800-799-7233

There are also local women’s/mens shelters in the area that you could contact. If things get completely out of hand.

I know for me I started intense therapy this week to help deal with my past issues and be able to finally work through everything since it really started to impact and ruin my life. It’s going to be a process but I know I’ll get there.

I’ve put it off for a long time and ended up stuck and on a bad road that I now need to work through to get off of even more.

Don’t wait. Don’t be like me and ignore it all and push it off. Talk to someone. Get someone to help you and don’t wait to speak up.



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