When I was younger, I used to think the word, “abuse”, only meant that another person had physically attacked someone else.
Not realizing emotional abuse is an actual thing..
First off. What exactly is emotional abuse?
Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased.
Emotional abuse is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s very damaging to a person and can cause the following:
- Depression and withdrawal
My story of emotional abuse:
I’m not going to go into this fully for a couple of reasons, I’m working on something else where it will be explained and I’m not fully ready to share it all yet.
My story starts with constant bullying in elementary/middle school for being overweight and just not fitting in.
Along with family members trying to constantly control my life and having my life the way they want it.
Plus, the big one, a ton of emotional and even some physical abuse from past relationships. Whether it’d be from degrading me to constant screaming for asking a simple question.
I always had said, I’d rather be hit then degraded. Sad to say but it’s true.
Are you struggling with emotional abuse?
Do you know someone whose struggling with emotional abuse and want to help?
- Remembering that the abuse doesn’t happen because of some character flaw in you
- Remembering the abuser is not the authority
- Finding ways to be assertive and stand up for yourself (safely of course!)
- Avoiding the emotionally abusive encounter
- Walking away from the encounter if it kicks off
- Do not get caught up and start attacking the abuser in return
- Take time to self care
- Listen to the person venting to you
- Educate yourself on the type of abuse
- Help build the person up, don’t drag them down
- Don’t insult or ask questions like “why are you dealing with this?” Some situations are more complex than you know
National Domestic Violence Hotline (USA) 1-800-799-7233
There are also local women’s/mens shelters in the area that you could contact. If things get completely out of hand.
I know for me I started intense therapy this week to help deal with my past issues and be able to finally work through everything since it really started to impact and ruin my life. It’s going to be a process but I know I’ll get there.
I’ve put it off for a long time and ended up stuck and on a bad road that I now need to work through to get off of even more.
Don’t wait. Don’t be like me and ignore it all and push it off. Talk to someone. Get someone to help you and don’t wait to speak up.